The first month of the year is done already! Last year was wild, so let's stay devoted to our goals for 2021 & continuously work towards the growth we wish to see within ourselves.
Before we throw ourselves into our work and career goals, I think it's extremely important to look inward. This past year has been draining to say the least- so hopefully we're all taking time for ourselves to practice self-care.
Self-care can come in many forms and it's not just a one time thing- it's continuous acts of consciousness to make sure that your wellbeing is prioritized. I can't stress how important this is, as I saw so much growth in myself and my focus once I started truly taking care of myself- my body and my mind.
For me, self-care means all of the above. I took little steps to begin with at first and started giving myself an ultimate spa day at the end of each week and girrrrl lemme tell you- I go all out on my spa days now; that's on nail care, hair care & body care - baths, hair masks, face masks, exfoliants, serums with the jade roller, lotion, moisturizer, eye cream - yes the whole shebang! All this so I can physically feel good! Ahh the feeling of being sparkly soft and squeaky clean! haha (it helps).
Another big thing is self-reflection. Looking back on past memories and thoughts that still trigger us- things or people that you keep thinking about; and reflecting on it- why does this really bother me? What about this situation effects me today? Even though some chapters in our lives are physically gone, we tend to hold on- and then we end up projecting certain traumas into our everyday lives. It's necessary to take time to reflect on situations and understand why we still feel the way we do, and if anything can be done about it today. It could be things from childhood or from recent relationships. If there's nothing that we can do to change situations of the past- maybe it's time to let go. We may look back and realize that there are certain patterns or behaviors that need correcting. If we become aware of our behavior going forward, we have the chance of actively correcting poor decision making that can come from it. It's important to be conscious of our behavior so that we don't hurt others around us- and even more importantly so we don't hurt ourselves in the process. That would be shitty. We do not want that.
Also, let's start setting boundaries. Say no to the things that cross your boundaries. It's ok to be more vocal especially when things directly effect your wellbeing! I've always had a hard time saying no to people growing up, and I carried that into adulthood until recently. It's not good to be too nice. You get taken advantage of and regret it afterwards. I've learned to push myself to speak up more often- whether it be at work or with friends- don't take no shit! And let it be known so they don't TRY you :) It may be hard to begin with if you're not use to it- but you have to look out for yourself. I have to mention that since I've started being more vocal, I feel more respected by the people around me.
Saying no doesn't involve any animosity. It's not- "f*ck you & f*ck no!" It's simply expressing yourself, and there are ways to do it effectively without receiving a negative response.
So really try to take care of yourself while taking care of your business. Continue the growth within, and it will show through in your persona and your work!
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